For the Ones Still Haunted by the Past
Life has continued on, but the past still lives in your body, your thoughts, and your relationships. You deserve peace from what won’t let go.
Therapy for Adults dealing with Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in Oklahoma
When the Past Still Feels Present
Trauma changes things. Sometimes suddenly. Sometimes slowly, over years. Whether you lived through a single terrifying moment or carried emotional pain for decades, it can leave you feeling like you’re always on edge, never fully safe, never quite yourself.
When you’ve experienced trauma—whether physical, emotional, or relational—it often leaves its mark in silence. You might seem put together on the outside, but inside, you’re always bracing for the next blow. The grief, the fear, the sense that something’s not right—they all linger, even when the world says you should be fine by now. If you’ve been coping quietly, minimizing your pain, or wondering why it still hurts so much, this space is for you.
Trauma Isn’t Just What Happened. It’s What’s Still Living Inside You.
Trauma can take many forms:
Physical or sexual assault
Emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse
Medical trauma or invasive procedures
Childhood emotional neglect, abandonment, or parentification
Domestic violence or controlling relationships
Grief and loss, including ambiguous or disenfranchised grief
Witnessing violence, death, or suffering (directly or vicariously)
Systemic oppression or cultural trauma
Chronic invalidation or being silenced over time
But trauma isn’t defined by the event itself. It’s defined by its impact.
If your body still feels on guard, if your mind replays things you’d rather forget, if you can’t seem to relax even when you’re safe—that’s trauma.
How Unresolved Trauma and Emotional Wounds Might Be Showing Up
Feeling numb, disconnected, or "not like yourself"
Panic attacks, flashbacks, or nightmares
Chronic shame, guilt, or self-blame
Trouble trusting others or getting close
Always being "on," hypervigilant, or reactive
Difficulty sleeping or relaxing
Feeling like you’re too much, or not enough
Overreacting to small stressors or shutting down entirely
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
Feeling stuck in the past, even when life has moved on
Even if it happened years ago. Even if you’ve been functioning just fine on the outside. Even if no one else sees it—you still deserve healing.
There’s a Reason You Cope the Way You Do
When you’ve been through trauma, your mind and body adapt. That might look like:
Overworking to stay busy
Avoiding certain people, places, or memories
Shutting down emotionally to stay in control
Trying to "fix" yourself with productivity or perfectionism
Using humor or sarcasm to deflect pain
Becoming overly independent so you never have to rely on anyone
Numbing out with food, substances, or distraction
These aren’t flaws. They’re strategies. They kept you safe. But they’re not meant to be permanent.
Therapy can help you understand these patterns with compassion—not shame—and support you in choosing what still serves you and what no longer needs to run the show.
What Therapy Can Look Like
You don’t need to retell every detail of what happened. You don’t even need to fully remember what happened. You don’t need to be completely ready. You just need a space where your story, your pain, and your defenses are met with respect.
I use trauma-informed, integrative approaches, including:
EMDR Therapy to help your brain process painful memories and reduce emotional intensity
Parts Work (IFS) to understand the protective and wounded parts of you
Somatic Therapy to calm your nervous system and reconnect with your body
Insight-Based Work to help you make sense of how your past is showing up now
This work is steady, compassionate, and built around your needs. We go at your pace.
What to Expect in Therapy
Starting trauma therapy can feel vulnerable—especially if you’re used to handling things on your own. Here’s what you can expect:
We’ll start by building safety and trust. No pressure, no pushing.
You’ll never be asked to share anything you’re not ready to say.
Together, we’ll create a roadmap based on your goals, your pace, and your capacity.
You’ll learn skills for regulation, grounding, and self-compassion from the very beginning.
Over time, you’ll gain more clarity, confidence, and connection to yourself.
Therapy doesn’t mean diving straight into your hardest memories. It means creating a space that can hold your story—gently, steadily, and with care.
For Adults With Childhood Pain
Maybe no one ever hurt you physically, but love always felt conditional. Or you were the peacemaker, caretaker, or problem-solver long before you were ready. Or emotions were ignored, punished, or ridiculed.
That kind of childhood still leaves a mark.
You might:
Struggle with self-worth, boundaries, or trusting others
Have an inner critic that never quiets down
Feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions
Constantly fear abandonment or rejection
Therapy can help you untangle these patterns—and build something new.
When Weekly Therapy Isn’t Enough
We begin with a clear plan: identifying what’s weighing on you, what you want to shift, and what kind of support will help get you there. Each session allows space for deeper processing — whether that’s moving through trauma using EMDR, exploring protective parts of yourself, or simply making room for what hasn’t had space to be felt.
Clients often say intensives feel like exhaling after years of holding it together. With time to slow down and integrate, you may leave with more clarity, fewer internal battles, and a renewed sense of groundedness.
This is about creating space for something to shift — not just survive another week.
You Deserve Safety, Support, and Healing
You didn’t choose what happened. But you do get to choose how you move forward.
If you’re tired of surviving and ready to start healing, reach out.