Loss, Longing, and Letting Go
Therapy for adults in Oklahoma navigating grief, loss, and all the things that didn’t go as planned
Grief Has Many Forms
Some grief is obvious. Other grief lives quietly inside us for years — unspoken, but still heavy.
You might be carrying more than you realize.
Grief after the death of someone close can feel like the world has shifted beneath your feet. Whether the loss was sudden or long-anticipated, it can leave you feeling untethered, hollow, or like time has split into "before" and "after." You may be facing birthdays, anniversaries, or even ordinary days that now feel painfully different.
And grief isn’t always about death.
Sometimes it’s about the childhood you never had. The parent you had to walk away from. The dream that never materialized. Or the person you lost that no one else even knew mattered to you.
You may be grieving:
The death of a partner, parent, sibling, child, or close friend
A caregiver you’ve had to cut ties with — even though part of you still longs to be close
A childhood shaped by dysfunction, emotional neglect, or always being the “strong one”
The family you wished for, but never really had
A relationship, identity, or life path that unraveled or was never safe to begin with
Years spent surviving instead of living
Grief doesn’t need to be dramatic to be real. It just needs space.
And that’s what this work is here to offer.
It’s Not Just Sadness —
It’s Disorientation, Exhaustion, and Longing
Grief shows up in ways most people don’t expect.
You might feel numb one day and overwhelmed the next. Maybe you’re struggling to function, or maybe you look “fine” while feeling completely lost inside.
Grief can sound like:
— “Why does this still hurt so much?”
— “I don’t know who I am without them.”
— “I feel like I should be over this by now.”
— “Everyone else moved on, but I’m stuck.”
— “I don’t know how to let go, but I can’t keep holding on either.”
Whether your loss is tangible or unspoken, it deserves space.
You’re Not Broken. You’re Grieving.
Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. It doesn’t care if the loss happened last month or ten years ago.
And it doesn’t always come with a clean ending.
Sometimes grief is loud. Sometimes it’s quiet.
Whether you’ve lost a person, a relationship, or a sense of who you were supposed to be — it matters.
This isn’t about forcing closure.
It’s about giving shape to something that’s been living inside you for a long time — and learning how to carry it with compassion.
What Healing Looks Like Here
You don’t have to explain it perfectly.
You don’t have to make sense of it yet.
You just need a space where your grief is allowed to exist — in whatever form it takes.
I use a blend of integrative, trauma-informed approaches to support your grief process:
EMDR therapy to help you process grief and loss that still live in your nervous system
Parts work (IFS) to explore the inner conflict between the parts of you that want to move forward and the parts that feel afraid, guilty, or not ready
Somatic tools to help your body settle and restore a sense of safety
Insight-based therapy to help you make meaning of your loss and how it’s shaped your life
Experiential techniques (like empty chair work) to give voice to unspoken pain and support emotional release
This isn’t about getting over it.
It’s about honoring what you’ve lost — and reconnecting with what’s still here.
When Weekly Therapy Isn’t Enough for Grief
Some grief is too big for fifty minutes. It doesn’t fit neatly into a once-a-week box — especially when you’ve been carrying it quietly for months or years.
Breakthrough Therapy Intensives offer a deeper, more supported way to move through grief that’s stuck or unspoken. These customized, private-pay programs give you the time and emotional space to do the work that weekly therapy often can’t hold.
Each intensive is built around your capacity, needs, and goals. Sessions range from 2–6 hours across multiple days — designed to help you slow down, go deeper, and actually move through the pain instead of circling it.
This is ideal if you’re:
Feeling frozen or disconnected months (or years) after a loss
Navigating layered grief — death, identity loss, estrangement, or medical trauma
Wanting space to name and process grief you’ve never talked about
In a life transition and carrying unresolved sorrow into the next chapter
You don’t need to keep bracing or pretending. These intensives offer a safe, focused space to honor what’s been lost — and start finding your way forward.
Common Questions About Grief Therapy
Is it too late to start grief therapy?
Not at all. Whether your loss was recent or years ago, therapy can help you process what still feels tender, unfinished, or invisible.
What if my grief isn’t about death?
That’s okay. We grieve all kinds of things — people, childhoods, dreams, relationships. If it hurts, it matters. And it belongs here.
What if I don’t know how to talk about it?
That’s okay too. You don’t need the right words. We’ll start where you are, and go at a pace that feels safe for you.
How long will this take?
Grief has no set timeline. Some people come for a short season, others stay longer to explore deeper wounds. We’ll figure out what’s right for you.
“But I Can’t Change What I’ve Lost.”
That’s true. We can’t go back and change what happened.
We can’t make someone stay who didn’t.
We can’t undo the silence, the absence, or the ending that came too soon — or never came at all.
But that doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck in it.
Grief that’s never spoken often becomes shame.
Pain that isn’t witnessed can grow heavy, confusing, or quietly overwhelming.
Therapy gives your grief a place to go.
A place to be seen.
A place to breathe.
You don’t have to keep carrying it alone.
You can’t change what you’ve lost — but you can change how it lives in you now.
You can make space for joy, for meaning, for peace — even as you continue to honor what was.
This isn’t about forgetting.
It’s about learning how to carry your grief in a way that doesn’t carry you away.
You Don’t Have to Grieve in Silence
Whether you're mourning someone you’ve lost, grieving the life you thought you’d have, or navigating a lifetime of unmet emotional needs — this pain doesn’t have to stay hidden.
Your grief matters.
Your loss matters.
And you're allowed to bring all of it into the room.